October is miscarriage awareness month.
This month I woke up to the news of a celebrity having a miscarriage. And while a great part of the World is kind and understanding, there’s a huge part that actually decided to attack this woman for sharing her experience.
So I felt called to talk about it. Here are my thoughts, just take a listen.
Sending love and healing energy to anyone who has gone or is going through this.
Much love,
Andrea
Are self-worth and self-esteem the same thing? If you go and you look it up at a dictionary, the definition for self-esteem is self-worth and definition for self-worth is self-esteem. So that makes it kind of complicated to actually understand. They seem to be the same thing but they are actually not.
Self-esteem has to do with the way that yousee yourself and your belief. The belief of who you are in this planet. Self-esteem has a lot to do with the 3d world that we live in, with thi sphysicality that we have and what we are expected to do. Or what our society declares that we have to do. The way that we see ourselves and the role that we play in this planet.
Self-worth has actually a more spiritual definition. Self-worth has to do with the essence of who you truly are. Self-worth has a spiritual meaning.
Self-worth really has to do with your essence and with a spiritual plane instead of a 3d earthy plane that we live in. So you can understand really why these two concepts are so different. Self-worth has to do with the essence of who you truly are. There is nothing that you can do to change that. It’s the value that you have as a person.There’s nothing that you can do to increase your self-worth and there’s nothing that you can do to decrease your self-worth. Your self-worth just is. It’s your birth right. You are worth it. There is nothing that you or anybody cando to change that.
It’s something that you have been assigned, something that has been encoded in you even before you were born. The problem is that usually with get tangled up in what our society awaits for us or from us. That’s where it gets like a little bit tricky, because we start comparing ourselves to people, we start comparing our goals, we start comparing our so-called success to others and that is where we get really confused about the self-esteem and the self-worth.
Self-esteem has a lot to do with measuring ourselves to others. Unfortunately we confuse the concept of self-worth with self-esteem even though they are very very different. The problem is that if you continue to compare your self’s worth and your self-esteem you maybe left very confused. Your self-worth just is. It’s for you to see it is for you to value it. Your self-worth is so valuable that there is nothing you can do to increase it. It’s something that you just have. You are so valuable that there’s no way to measure that.
There’s a lot of people that has a lot of self-esteem but they don’t have self-worth. You see them or you hear them and you know that their self-esteem is very very very high. However in many cases their self-worth is not there. They don’t feel valuable, they don’t feel lovable, they don’t feel worth it.
All of this really has to do with perception, and self-love. Just love yourself. You are worth it, you are valuable, you are important. You are here with a mission you just need to remember that all the time. Don’t let yourself get tricked with somebody else’s rules or concepts of what you are supposed to be or what you are supposed to achieve in order for you to feel worth it. Because you are worth it. Your self-worth is unmeasurable. It’s so valuable you cannot really measure that, it’s just there, it just is. I hope that this clears a little bit the misconceptions between self-worth and self-esteem that they are the same. They are truly not. Just know that you are worth it, you are valuable. You are perfect the way you are.
Let’s talk about manifestation, law of attraction and actuallyhigh vibes and positive vibes.
If you are anything like me you must be a creator. You know how to manifest, you have heard the steps time and time and time again. If you are in this journey, one of the steps that people talk about the most is actually the one about raising your vibration.
Raising your vibration is not the only thing that you’re gonna need to manifest. Many people get so tangled up in the concept of raising their vibration that that’s the only thing that they’re focusing on. The truth is that you can be raising your vibration, which is a good practice and it’s a nice practice, but not for the reasons that you might be thinking of. If you are raising constantly your vibration you might be missing out on other things that could help you bring what you want into your life.
While raising your vibration is an amazing practice it’s not really what is gonna make your manifestation come true or come to this 3d world that we live in. Raising your vibration actually helps you but does not guarantee that you’re going to get your manifestation. For example: has it ever happened to you that you want something and you’re thinking: oh my gosh I cannot manifest that. It could be a car, your house or the person that you want to be with, or whatever it is that you want. It can be something really small it can be something huge and you’re thinking I gotta raise my vibration, I cannot manifest this. If I’m feeling down, if I’m not positive about it, if Idon’t think in good terms about it, I need to raise my vibration.
You start doing all of these practices to actually raise your vibration which is amazing but that does not guarantee that your manifestation is going to come to life. If you are in this journey raising the vibration is all that you’re doing, and that’s all that you’re concentrating on chances are that your manifestation is not gonna happen because there are other areas of your life that you’re also need to work with that don’t have to do particularly with raising the vibration. I have manifested many things with my vibration being low so the whole raising vibration thing is not really all that it seems to be.
If you are raising your vibration,taking the steps and nothing is happening, your manifestation is not coming you need to change strategies a bit.
First thing that I want you to do is really analyze what you’re doing. You need to get a clear intention of what you want to manifest and then more than anything else, more than raising your vibration, what I need you to do is align with it. Aligning with what you want sometimes is a tricky thing because more than likely you want something that you have never had or experienced before.
How do you align to something that you have never had or experienced before? For example if you want to have a million dollars and you’re saying: I want a million dollars,I’m gonna get a million dollars and you don’t have an intention as to why you want the million dollars , manifesting them will be hard.
BE clear on your why. What are you gonna use a million dollars for? The feeling of having it. What is it? You need to recognize the feeling first in order for this to come to you. And it’s very hard to know what you’re going to be feeling if you have a million dollars if you never had a million dollars right? But little by little taking these small steps of positive thinking, tuning in with your body and mind, and other techniques allow you you to align with what you want in order to receive it.
Raising your vibration, journaling , and using other tools and really centering and aligning and feeling that is coming to you. By doing this you are activating a part of your brain that is actually saying to reality yes this is coming, is happening. The only other thing that I really want you to do and thinkis the recognition that the universe got its timing. Your manifestation will happen but maybe in not the timing that you expect.
Think about what you want in the present tense. It’s a common mistake to talk about manifesting in the future tense, but doing this tells the universe that is coming . So it will always be coming, and never materialize in the present. The universe does not know, your conscious does not know, your mind does not know the difference between positive and negative. It’s just happening all the time. It doesn’t know the difference between the past, present and the future. You need to say it in present state. It is happening, and it’s happening right now. Like I have the million dollars, it’s there it’s there. Just declare it, it’s already here, and soon enough it will be
Let’s talk about law of attraction and the 17 second rule. If you have been practicing law of attraction you may have heard about the 17 second rule which technically is a rule that says that if we are able to hold a thought for 17 seconds we will be able to manifest this thought quite rapidly. It seems like really simple, right?
You just think how much you want to manifest hold that thought for 17 seconds and then the universe is gonna help us put that manifestation in motion. If this is something that you have tried to practice and you have failed I want to give you a couple of tips on how to do this thing better.
17 seconds seems like a really really short time when you think that there’s so many seconds throughout the day. There’s an incredible amount of seconds that we have in the day just to manifest because we are manifesting all the time. If you want to concentrate 17 seconds of your day chasing that one thing that you truly truly want in practice may become a little bit difficult. Believe me I have tried.
It’s like 17 seconds is so easy! 17 seconds, and then you’re trying to time yourself and you realize that 17 seconds it seems to be a longer time than what you actually thought it was going to be.
I want to give you a couple of tips to make this process easier and simpler for you. The first thing that I want you to do is like with anything that we want maybe we need to put together a little bit plan for it. This 17 second rule is no exception the first thing that I need you to do is really think about that thing that you want to manifest . What is it that you want to manifest?
Whether it is a car, a relationship. a job, a trip, a vacation, beer grades at school, whatever it is that you’re trying to manifest. What is it that one thing just pinpointed . Just think about one, one thing only for now. Second thing that we can do with that thing is write it down. You don’t need do a whole explanation about the why, the how. Forget about the how, that’s essential in manifestation. Write down whatever it is that you want . When you look at it I don’t want you to just put, let’s say if you want to manifest the car, I want you to just write down “car”. Be a little bit more specific about it and talk about the type of car that you want, what does it look like,and put it in a short sentence. If you are reading this sentence you just created, it will last about 17 seconds when you are reading it, or it could also be a quick sentence that you can repeat to bring it to those 17 seconds.
If you are just thinking “car” it’s only one word. It is one thought, but it may take you a lot of concentration just to think :car, car, car, car, car right?
It’s way easier and it brings more feelings into it and easier manifestation if you say that you want for example the red car with leather seats that is going to be parked your driveway. So not only that will help you make the sentence a little bit longer to last 17 seconds but it will also help you with the process when you’re actually within the 17 second. Because now what you can do when you go to into those 17 seconds, you just concentrate on it. Close you eyes, take a deep breath, and then you think about this thing. You can actually visualize it better because now you know exactly what it’s going to look like. You also need you to feel what is it that it feels like if you actually have this red car with leather seats already parked in your driveway. So holding that thought is gonna be quite easier than just thinking for 17 seconds like car, car, car. It’s going to drive you insane.
When you think you have held your thought for 17 seconds, you’re gonna realize that maybe you just thought about it for five. So though the 17 seconds is an amazing thing for you to start manifesting with and it truly helps you, please don’t time it when you’re doing it you don’t need to put your timer to 17 seconds. What this is doing is trying to help you maintain the thought for longer and start training your brain and your body to actually hold that thought and start manifesting faster.
For the 17 second rule to work faster and easier for you and without so much frustration is without manifesting yet just think about the thing that you want to manifest. Then you’re going to create a sentence describing what you want to manifest that hopefully will last about 17 seconds when you read it or maybe you read it twice and it will last about the 17 seconds. Once you master the technique it will b like automatic you don’t have to think about the time after that when you actually go into holding the thought for 17 seconds. If you need to close your eyes to do it, kind of meditating you can just close your eyes, take a deep breath, center yourself and start saying that sentence to yourself while visualizing it, and feeling it. Get that feeling of how wonderful it’s gonna be to already have that thing that you want. Last and not least please be thankful and consider it done because it is already done for you.
Why is it okay to dislike something or somebody and why is it fine when we are in this journey of self-growth and spirituality and attracting things into our life
When you are awakening, on your spiritual journey, when you are thinking about what’s best for your life many times we feel that it is wrong if we don’t like something. We are all on this journey where we seem to be needing to be positive all the time and happy all the time. And then things will come to us we are manifesting, we are living the best life always and in order to do that we need to be positive all the time.
In reality is not like that, it’s not real, that is not the way that anyone lives. It is not a fact that you’re gonna be able to be happy 24 7 365. The reality is life happens and sometimes you’re not gonna be able to be as happy or or you know to be in the highest vibration that you could possibly be. It’s just life, is the way it is. We are human and we are here to have a human experience.
We live in a world of duality and I think that most of us sometimes forget that. This is a good reason why it’s good to know what you don’t like. When you dislike something and you’re able to recognize it, and you know exactly what it is that you don’t like you now have awareness. This can help you actually grow and expand, and be better and by contrast it helps you define what you actually like and what you’re actually passionate about. What you love and what are the good things that you should be focusing on instead of focusing on something that you truly do not like. I know it seems controversial but the reality is when you are able to recognize that there is something that you dislike you’re actually opening the doors of expansion to experience things that you do like. Because now that you know what you don’t like and you know how to deal with it you know how not to focus upon the thing you know how to react in a different manner towards it.
You know by contrast the good things that can come and you are actually making a space for all of these other good things that can come to you. Remember the best is always coming. Noone should feel guilty about being in a spiritual journey and disliking because there’s this talk about you know you need to like everything because you’re spiritual and you’re positive and that’snot the way it works.
It’s not fair to think that that’s the way that it’s going to work because it won’t . So in this duality you need to recognize actually what you don’t like, focus so you know how to deal with it, you know what to do with it and you know not to particularly pay attention to it anymore. When you are in this con discordance with something it just means by contrast, by duality that there is something on that other side that you actually agree with or that you love with or that you can act upon it.
If you are an overthinker, I have some amazing tips for you that are going to help you on your everyday life. They’re also going to help you become your best self and live at peace and ease and in flow which is what we all truly truly want right?
Overthinking happens to the best of us. But why does overthinking happen? There might be some sort of situation that you are facing in your life, there might be something that you gotta buy like a big big purchase, something related to work, something related to school, something related to your parents, something related to your children…
It usually has to do with something perceived as big in your life on your mind, where a decision needs to be made. Though overthinking can happen at any time sometimes it happens also with the small and tiniest things that actually trigger you. You go into this carousel ride where you cannot seem to be able to hop off because you’re just going round and round and round and round and round about the same thing over and over and over again. Sometimes you think about this particular situation only in one way and you just think multiple times about the same thing . Some other times, overthinking may take you of thinking about a situation and start playing all of the different possible scenarios as to the decision that you need to make and how they are going to play out .
The truth is, if you are over thinking like if you think too much too many times whatever the situation is, it can end up driving you insane, because your mind is super active you are not able to just make a decision and you’re just gonna go round and round and round and round and it’s gonna wear you out.
Here is the truth. This may be revealing to some of you, it was very revealing to me when I found out about this. I couldn’t believe that spiritually this is really what is going on. Let me let you in on this little secret. Overthinking, we all know that it happens because we have an overactive mind right? The mind just cannot stop, just keeps going and going and going and going and it’s usually linked to a particular situation or event. A decision that you have to make and what the possible outcome may be, doesn’t make you feel good at all .
Most of the times you cannot see a way out. You don’t feel good about it and you just don’t know what to do. This is why your mind just keeps on going and going. But let me tell you a little secret.
When you are overthinking it’s just a sign that your heart is closing. Your heart is shutting down and you cannot come out of this shell, of this thing. It’s as if you’re shrinking, you’re getting smaller, because your mind just goes and goes and goes and goes. The first thing that you need to do is have the awareness, have the acknowledgement that you are overthinking.
The second thing that I need you to do once that you realize this, is to stop for a minute and just step away from the situation. You’re gonna tell me: oh it’s so hard to step away from it…
Believe me if, you have the time to keep on thinking and thinking about it, you also have the time to just stop thinking and step away. Once that you have stepped away from it, you need to calm your mind. Clear your mind, and let that go in the back seat just for a little minute until you’re able to make that decision.
One of the best things that you can do in order to clear your mind is to come back to your self, to your inner self. Your inner self knows what’s best for you always. We just shut down our inner self, our intuition when they are just trying to talk to us all the time. We are not listening to it . Take a deep breath, come back to yourself, and calm down. Just take a couple of deep breaths, let it go. Go and watch tv if you need to, go and grab a book if you need to. Just step away from it for a few minutes and then you can come back to the matter at hand with a clearer perspective.
If you actually close your eyes, put your hands to your heart and think about the situation for a second. Once that you open your eyes, I can guarantee you, you’re only going to have and see one solution for this thing that you are facing. And just like that you have made a decision quicker than you ever had. And it’s actually the right decision to make because your inner self is talking to you.
We have to make friends with our mind, we have to make friends with our body, we have to make friends with everything that is happening inside of us. It will allow us to shift, in order to clear it, to be our best version and live the life that we want at ease and peace. In flow and just be happy about it.
If you are an overthinker, just make the recognition, be aware that you’re doing this. It’s nothing bad, it’s just a sign of a mind that is just overworking. Once that we can make friends with this fact, once that we recognize this , we can go back to ourselves. We can make the right decision and we can let our heart open. If you keep on thinking and thinking about it, you’re just gonna shut down. You don’t even realize you’re doing this. This part you don’t realize you’re doing, it’s super unconscious. The conscious part is that you keep on thinking and thinking about something else so just be open be open. It’s gonna pay out for you big time I promise you. When you recognize this you can start making amazing decisions that are actually heart centered and conscious. Because now we know. I hope that these tips have actually helped you if you are an overthinker in recovery.
Much love.
Today I want to talk to you about two terms that seem to be the same but they are actually very different and they get some people confused What’s the difference between daydreaming and visualization? They sound pretty similar. Right?
You may be thinking: wow, I wanna have this beautiful car and i’m just gonna think about it so I can manifest it in my life. But, should you dreaming about it or should you just be visualizing?
I want you to take into account that when you are daydreaming is a little bit like a game and is in a way unconscious and more than likely what you are dreaming about is so out there that is something that is never gonna represent in your actual real life.
For example you can be daydreaming that you are inside a cartoon for example. Daydreaming happens maybe when you are bored, it happens like an escape for something. Let’s say you’re in a meeting and it’s truly boring or you are taking a class and it doesn’t spark your interest. All of a sudden your mind just goes somewhere else because you need to disconnect.
So you are usually super bored. Daydreaming happens a lot when somebody’s talking and you’re not even paying attention anymore. You lost track of whatever they were saying because you are truly not interested. All of a sudden you start thinking about something else, such as: wouldn’t it be nice if i will have a dog? and wouldn’t it be nice if my dog was wearing this like cute costume that i saw at the store for Halloween?
Is as if your mind goes places because you are just playing around. There’s really no intention behind it other than to just a disconnect from current reality so you can recharge. Ans just like you went somewhere else and you disconnected, all of a sudden, boom, you come back and you’re back in that meeting, you’re back in that class and life goes on and more than likely you are never gonna think about this thing ever again. This thought just goes to the back of your mind now. It was something for you to just disconnect, have a little break from reality. It was playful, it was nice but that’s about it. That’s all that is going to do for you. With daydreaming you let your imagination just run wild because you’re trying to have this little escape from your current duty or reality.
Sometimes you’re not even like you know in a minute or a class or something that is just boring maybe you’re just at home and you are just taking a look at the ceiling and you start thinking about these random things and there’s no intention behind it other than to have a break from your current situation.
Will you go after these things that you are daydreaming about? Sometimes you may but more than likely it’s just like a random thought that is coming to you.
With visualization what you are doing is applying a technique where you have an intention. You can truly see in your mind what you are trying to gt or achieve. Some people have trouble visualizing, they cannot really see or picture what they are trying to achieve. With visualization more than the visual, more than the picture, what really really counts is the feeling that you have about this. For example, if this little dog that you were dreaming about is something that you really want to bring into your life, more than likely you’ve been thinking about it for a while. More than likely you already have an specific dog in mind, more than likely you really really want to get this dog into your present and your current reality.
This doesn’t happen randomly. You have a clear and sole intention of bringing this into your current reality, into your actual present , so if you are visualizing the dog you are putting an intention into it \. You are in a way telling the universe look this is the plan, that I have. This is what i want to get and you may go even into meditation. Just closing your eyes and thinking about this dog that you want to have. Once that the intention is set, you will be able to manifest it in real life.
I just want to concentrate on the fact that daydreaming and visualization are not the same thing. The most important thing is that with visualization you do have an intention and you do want to bring this thing into real life manifest it in your present.
Daydreaming is a break from current reality just for fun. Visualization can also be for fun from the act of manifesting, but when you are visualizing you are really planting the seed that you want this thing to actually become real and you actually have feelings attached to it. You are trying to truly make it come true. And more than likely you will, because you are a great creator. We just need to plant that seed, put it out there and let the universe do its magic.
If you are working on your self development , you may hear these 2 terms a lot.
And while they seem similar, if not the same, are they really? Take a look at the video below where I explain the real deal about the real meaning on recoding and rewiring .
Recoding has to do with rewriting your emotions and feelings, while rewiring is the term used when reprogramming your brain, your mind.
Mow that you are aware of this, it should be easier for you to choose the right technique for you to start changing your beliefs, or thoughts into better ones for you to help you achieve the life that you dream of.